SERVICES

Short-term Therapy

 

Are you feeling burned out in your job, your marriage, your parenting, your church or with infertility and don't know where to turn?  
 

  • Maybe you don't even know what you need or what to ask for.  

  • Maybe you've already tried everything you can to improve your situation but feel stuck.  

  • Maybe you're afraid to admit to others just how bad you are truly doing.

  • Maybe you feel trapped and see no way out of your situation.

  • Maybe you're scared that you're on the verge of a breakdown.  
     

Take heart!  You are not alone.  You can do this.  You will get through this.
 

  • We will sit down and sort through your situation--the good, the bad, and the ugly.

  • We will figure out what needs to happen for you to move forward and get un-stuck.  

  • We will identify various paths you could take.

  • We will face your fears of change.

  • We will find ways for you to soothe your anxiety and manage your stress.

  • We will inspire the courage to do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

Long-term Therapy

 

Do you have "issues" or "struggles" that have plagued you for a longtime that you know you need help to work through, but it is not necessarily a crisis?  Are you tired of living below your potential and want more for your future?  Some examples of what my clients have come in to work through:
 

  • Poorly coping with stress and the demands of daily life

  • Constantly comparing oneself to others and feeling "less than"

  • Fear of being exposed as inadequate, lacking, "a fraud" or "an imposter"

  • "Playing it safe" and "just getting by" in life to avoid risking failure

  • Chronic loneliness and ache for a healthy family / community in which to belong

  • People pleasing tendency and inability to say "no" to responsibilities

  • Lack of direction / meaning in life

  • Difficulty trusting others, being intimate or affectionate

  • Chronic anger, resentment and irritability

  • Anxiety that hinders you from enjoying your life and being present in the moment

It may seem impossible, but you can learn a new, more compassionate and flexible way of relating to yourself and the world.  By changing the way you feel towards yourself, we can change the way you interact with others and with your work.  You can operate from a sense of wholeness instead of deprivation, which allows you to take risks and be generous with your heart, mind, and resources.  You do not have to control and manipulate others to meet your needs.  You can learn to take care of yourself and risk to invite others to care for you.

Research is constantly demonstrating that the brain is malleable, adaptive, resilient, and developing throughout the entire lifespan--a quality called "neuroplasticity".  You are not "stuck in your ways" unless you choose to be.  The work we do in therapy can actually transform the structure of your brain!  

Mind / Body-focused Therapy

 

More and more research is confirming the connection between our mental and physical health.  It is my strong conviction that stress is either the cause or, at the very least, a strong contributor to most illnesses.  Chronic stress and concurrent elevated cortisol levels have been linked with heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, infertility, arthritis, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, insomnia, and irritable bowel syndrome.  As a society, we are overcommitted, endlessly busy, overstimulated, under-rested, and disconnected from the family and social networks that used to provide us with a sense of support, belonging, and safety.  Now we are alone, exhausted and anxious. 

Our brains are constantly inundated and overwhelmed by images, information, advertising, choices, and "time sensitive" digital communication.  It is becoming increasingly difficult to "keep up" with all the added demands of our time --voicemails, emails, texts, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat--and what is intended to make our lives "easier" actually ends up stressing us out.  Our brains respond to all these demands (which are not truly life-threatening) in the same way that it would if a tiger were charging at us.  With our Autonomic Nervous System constantly activated, we reach for quick energy in caffeine and sugar, we gain weight, we sleep poorly, we are irritable and we have poor impulse control.

Don't despair; there is yet hope!  We can learn a counter-cultural way of being as citizens of the 21st century.  Research consistently demonstrates the powerful influence of consistent practice of mindfulness, meditative prayer, and yoga.  Persons who practice daily mindfulness, meditation, or meditative prayer have been shown to have:
 

  • Lower levels of depression and anxiety

  • Less emotional reactivity / irritability

  • Improved working memory

  • Increased focus, alertness, and mental clarity

  • Increased relational satisfaction

  • Pain reduction

  • Increased pleasure in activities

  • Increased compassion for self and others

  • Improved immune functioning

  • Reduction in addictive / self-destructive behavior

  • Improved control of blood sugar levels in patients with type II diabetes

  • Improved heart and circulatory health
     

If the benefits are so obvious, why don't more people practice mindfulness?  In the majority of us, it is because we fear:
 

  • It will force us to slow down

  • It's not as productive as checking tasks off the to-do list

  • We will have to encounter our true emotions which would be uncomfortable

  • It will be "cheesy", "weird" or "new-agey"

  • It will require more work and we're already overcommitted

  • We won't be any good at it

  • It's not possible to keep my mind quiet
     

I really do understand your hesitation and I truly believe I can help you find a way to incorporate more meditation / mindfulness into your daily life without having to sit on a mat with your legs crossed, silent for an hour.  You can learn to be mindful as you eat, drive, work, exercise, play with your kids, 

If you have chronic pain, I can help you transform your relationship to the pain in such a way that you are not fighting against and loathing it, but rather accepting and coping with it. 

Couple Therapy

 

Do you find yourself thinking:
 

  • "This would be so much easier if I had just found and married 'the right person'!"

  • "Marriage should not be this hard!"

  • "I'm married but I feel completely and utterly alone."

  • "We have the same fights over and over and over again!"

  • "I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired of this relationship!"

  • "If only my partner would listen to me!"

  • "If we could only communicate better..."
     

There is real hope for your relationship!  I've worked with many couples and found that it is possible:
 

  • To create the safety in your relationship to be honest, open, and vulnerable.

  • To remain calm and centered even when your partner is sharing criticism or disappointment in you.

  • To connect with the deeper attachment needs that underlie your anger, blaming, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawal.  

  • To move towards each other rather than away from or against each other.

  • To be on the same team working together toward your goals.

  • To actually enjoy and appreciate your partner for the unique and valuable person that he/she is without trying to change them.

  • To be engaged in a continual process of growth and development with your partner and relationship.

  • To find activities that you can share in together.
     

Safety, calm, centered, connected, enjoying, engaged--not exactly words you would use to describe your relationship?  Maybe those words even feel uncomfortable to you?  That's okay.  We'll get there. 

Schedule an appointment: (314) 640-7437